I want to discuss with you about the dangers involved in Internet “Counseling.” This is the type of counseling by those on the Internet who give counseling or psychological therapy without any training or license either for free or for a fee. This is not guidance or advice from a blog, but someone who will talk with you by telephone or email to provide “counseling” or serve as a spiritual guide. There are those in the spiritual community who want to be gurus, so they call themselves “counselors” or guides.
Please know that dealing with mental, psychological, or emotional issues is like playing with fire, it can burn your house down. Many who are experiencing emotional and mental issues are the most vulnerable and may be the easiest to manipulate as they are emotionally wounded. I have observed those who have chosen this kind of “counseling” where these counselors may take advantage of transference that is when the clients transfer their feelings about their parents onto their counselors usually manifesting in an intense sexual attraction. This is when the counselor must set appropriate boundaries with their clients, but instead they engaged in sexual or romantic relationships with their clients. Because they are giving this service for free, they may feel entitled to cross these boundaries. As they are not licensed to practice, they cannot be disciplined by a licensing board or lose their license as this conduct and any emotional entanglements with a client is strictly prohibited. Continuing a relationship after discontinuing treatment also is considered unethical and strongly discouraged.
These so called “counselors” who are Kundalini active have the ability to manipulate energy such as emotions and thoughts. They can convince their clients to engage in sexual or romantic relationships with them, that they have extraordinary powers to cure others, and they may refuse to let their clients leave. The simple truth is that they are using their Kundalini abilities for self gain, for control, and to manipulate their clients. The only way to leave these situations is to disengage from them completely. Those with Kundalini abilities need to talk with you by telephone or interact with you directly to manipulate your emotions and thoughts. Do not return their calls, emails, or texts!
All of this may seem very cynical, but I have observed those who have been duped in this way and unable to leave these “counselors” for many years. These client’s emotional and mental health suffer as they now must heal the betrayal, lies, and manipulations of their counselors who they trusted and believed to help them recover emotionally. This will result in emotional damage to yourself and cause you to become stuck and unable to move forward in your emotional and mental recovery.
Before engaging in any kind of therapy or counseling, please check to see if this person is licensed and trained. You can verify their licenses and credentials with the National Board of Certified Counselors for those licensed in the United States at this LINK. Our emotional and mental health and recovery is our own responsibility, and we are responsible for making healthy, sound, and good choices for ourselves. As for myself, I have decided to do my own emotional healing work after many years of counseling with professional licensed therapists. Blessings of healing light, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
I recently have observed behaviors in myself and others involving fear and wanted to share some insights. Fear is created by our egos. Fear can be helpful, such as when we are in real dangers. For example, we are about to be struck by a vehicle or our home is being burglarized. This fear will motive us to act to get help or protect our loved ones. There are also situation in our lives where we may need to take precautions and be street wise, such as when we are walking alone down a deserted street in a dangerous part of town. These are real fears.
There is another kind of fear that is perceived. For instance, our fears are triggered by our past experienced of being hurt, or we perceive other’s motivation as trying to hurt us. In other words, there are no facts in our present life to indicate that hurt is being inflicted on us, but our perceived fear of the “possibility” of being hurt. This type of fear creates terrible anxiety and even depression if it remains with us for a prolonged period of time, potentially paralyzing our lives. This is the type of fear that spiritual practice talks about that creates problems for our lives.
The key here is awareness and being able to distinguish the different between real and perceived fear, and not reacting to this fear when it is perceived. I use “Observing Ego Practice” found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage to help me figure out the difference. Once you practice Observing Ego Practice regularly, you will be able to use this practice reflexively or instantaneously without going through each step, so you can make a judgement within seconds before reacting to the fear. Hope this helps you, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
For the last few months, I have been wondering if I am on the right path when it comes to my career. I took job at a college in a small rural mountain town two years ago, and have been asked to accomplish a difficult job of working with sexual assaulted students, faculty, and staff, dealing with discrimination problems on campus, and bringing diversity to a conservative and religious population. When I was offered this job, I heard a calling to come here to help those on campus who never had a voice or received help.
There are many days that I am too exhausted to even get up in the morning, and never feel rested even on the weekends. Even under this pressure and exhaustion, I look forward to working particularly with the students as I feel that I am able to help them change the quality of their lives. I received help myself in college to recognize my childhood abuse, and began psychological counseling there to change and begin improving my life. In the same way, I am helping these college students.
Every time I question my path here, I receive a clear message to keep going. Today was such a day, when a faculty from another college in Pennsylvania came to visit and asked to meet with me as she is researching for a paper she is writing on diversity on college campuses similar to her institution. Coincidentally, I am writing a report on this subject this week. We shared invaluable information that will help me make recommendations to change the climate of our college.
After our meeting today, I realize this is yet another person sent to help me on my mission here. These blessings are given to me because I am here to help others, and not for my own gain. While living here, I have had to give up things in my life such as being with others more like me, and living a more urban lifestyle. On the other hand, I have met many dear friends, found a community where others care for me, and found those to share a connection whether in the outdoors, art, music, or spirituality.
I feel that I am given all that I need to call this place home, although I would not necessarily have found this place otherwise. Maybe the Universe is helping me build my home wherever I am suppose to be? May you find your home through your calling. Blessings of love to you, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
We all have free will to make choices for our lives, and these series of choices create certain outcomes for our lives. Why do some people become addicts while others who are physically disabled become Olympians, mental disabled people become highly educated, and impoverished inner city children become leaders of their communities? The difference is intentions, choices, and efforts we make in our lives. Our lives do not just happen to us, we make our lives happen by our choices and efforts. The difficulties for many of us is to watch those we love make choices that perpetuate their addiction, whether it is drug, alcohol, sex addiction, emotional codepedency, or other forms of dependency.
How do we support those in our lives who suffer from dependency problems? We can show love to our loved ones without supporting their dependencies. For example, addicts will surround themselves with others who tell them what they want to hear and share their addiction behaviors. Codependents will find other codependents, as like attracts like. If you do not share their perspective, then you may be their enemy. Beware of this possibility.
However, to truly support your loved one. Be clear about what you will support or will not. For example, if they want to change their behaviors and give up their addiction, you will be there to help them however you can. However, also tell your loved one firmly that you will not support their addiction habits and behaviors, nor will you support or encourage their friendships with other addicts and codependents. The only way to beat their addiction is by leaving it completely. This clarity helps your loved one know exactly where you stand with them all the while telling them you love and support them to help them change their lives for the better.
Your loved ones may be very angry at you initially for being their “enemy,” and accuse you of being unsupportive of their lives as they may refuse to even acknowledge that they have a problem. Do not give in as all addicts truly just want their fix to get through the day as fear and anxiety overwhelm their lives and their drug of choice, whether alcohol, sex, or codependency is self medication essentially to help them cope with their lives. Have compassion for their suffering, give them love, but stand firm on your position that you will not support the addiction or dependency habits, behaviors, and needs.
When they are ready to give up their addiction, they will return to you for support. May you give your loved ones the support they need to recover. ~ Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
I appreciate your gentleness,
And I love your smile.
The light shines from your eyes,
When I see through them.
Your warmth holds me in slumber,
And my dreams.
Our minds are one when I write to you,
As your heart beats within mine.
I see the good within you,
And feel your hidden kindness.
When I think of you,
My eyes fill with tears,
As I harbor no anger,
Since our grievances are the past.
Although you are no longer with me,
This I want you to know always. ~ Brooke
(Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)